IRISH MUSINGS - MY CULTURE 4
SESSION FOUR — DELIGHT
This is a link to the ‘Principles’ tutorial video - ‘My Culture - Session 4 - Principles’
Alongside the Principes video, I have included the ‘Activation Narrative’ that is part of this session in the self-guided workbooks. The stories I tell aren’t comfortable, nor are they trauma porn. They are designed to elicit a specific response from the reader, tied to the topic our clients are working on in this session.
The Fourth Red Rule:
“The power of play to disarm conflict is seen on every playground in the world.”
― Robert (Sherpa) Millar
For many people familiar with my childhood, there is a sense that I never got the chance to play. But kids always find ways to play, even if it is while also scanning for danger signals. One of the advantages of being raised by wolves is that you have an extraordinary amount of unsupervised free time. As long as we went outside and stayed away, adults tended to leave us alone. Most of the time, I ran with a pack because safety in numbers was always an underlying concern on the streets.
But every so often, I’d break away. I loved to climb as a kid. I’d climb anything, but trees were one of my favorite things, and I’d get up high into the branches, and find a solid branch with interesting shapes, and disappear from my life and become some grand hero on an adventure. I had a trove of stories in my head because I also loved to read. I’d get up in a tree and become one of my book’s heroes, and lose myself for an hour or two before I had to climb back down into the grim reality that was my life.
I’m 54 and still love to climb, read, and get lost in my imagination. Currently, I am immersed in creating the workbook you are reading. There is a school of thought, and admittedly, I for a long time ascribed to it, that you can’t create a workbook that would produce a similar outcome to one-on-one coaching. To overcome this obstacle, I’m in full delight mode right now. I’m reading Andrew Ross Sorkin’s 1929 and cramming podcasts about AI, as well as daydreaming with my son about what our next car should be. John is eleven and has recently joined my delight in cars and driving. We have just finished watching Ford versus Ferrari and F1, and are now planning to attend a race.
At this point, I'd like to pause and explore a fascinating insight that this program occasionally offers. In the one-on-one coaching version of this program, our coaches need to capture the client’s basic motivation by working out the percentages of extrinsic and intrinsic home-mindset locations. For instance, my unique motivational percentage is ¾ Extrinsic because I am intrinsically motivated in this area. I have spent years in entrepreneurial settings and in content creation, both as a teacher and a coach. I find it somewhat strange that others focus on titles, status symbols, and extrinsic recognition. I genuinely don’t care. I am highly competitive and extrinsically motivated in most areas, so I have learned to play the game, collecting the extrinsic tokens I need to achieve success.
In the next post, we'll explore the first vehicle you'll learn to drive—Grounding—and how it allows you to travel between Competition and Stability without losing your home.
— Robert (Sherpa) Millar