MY ROOM 4
SESSION FOUR — SOMATIC COMFIDENCE
IGNORING EXTERNAL DISTRACTIONS
This is a link to the ‘Principles’ tutorial video - ‘My Room - Session 4 - Principles.’
The fourth Red Rule:
“Confidence is like church bells; everyone notices them ringing, we just don’t need them to tell time anymore.”
― Robert (Sherpa) Millar
For the past three sessions, you've been stripping away layers—distractions, comfort filters, analytical thinking—to access pure somatic attention. The apex predator lives in this state. It reads the room, notices danger, senses opportunity, all without the protective layers your conscious mind builds. Session Four focuses on Somatic Confidence: the most common distraction in any room.
This session teaches how to ignore something you have been conditioned to notice since your earliest days. Confidence! I work primarily with tier-one operators, spending my day entering one Zoom call after another to engage with highly successful people who can justify hiring someone like me. There is always confidence in each of those rooms. If you are doing this workbook, you spend most of your day in similar rooms where confidence is table stakes. It's a qualifier to get into the room, so it rarely offers any relevant information you didn't already feel was obvious. “Look at their confidence!” say the sleepwalkers, the apex predators say: “Big whoop!”
In the Principles and Practices videos, I mention my own somatic Certainty, Curiosity, Confidence, and Clarity. I’m not going to repeat them here. As you work through this program, you should be adding your own unique version of how you feel when you reach for each of these somatic cornerstones.
Reflection sequence:
The activation process brings itself to the foreground of your mind. The narrative unfolding in the Principle section activated empathic memories from your own lived experience. One of the most common mistakes clients make in this sequence is to ‘think’ about how the questions. Despite having spent six months being encouraged to ‘feel’ their way to the reflection point, they default back to the comfort zone of thinking. Your primitive hunter 'feels' things; it doesn't think about them. It feels for that familiar feeling of Confidence, then dismisses it as an irrelevant distraction.
Now that you have conjured up those lived experiences from your own memory that feel similar to mine, I want you to slow down, find a quiet place to sit, then close your eyes, put your dominant hand on your chest, and check how you felt when reading the Principles section of this session, the instruction, the images, the tone. This isn’t touchy-feely mediation, mindfulness techniques. It is how tier-one operators check in with their spidy sense. If it makes you uncomfortable, tough it out!
Now that you can somatically feel confidence in a room, move to practicing. This program has five sessions. Whether you race through or take your time, come back and slow down. I created this program as a subject-matter expert in Somatic Reading, and I still do these Somatic Exercises daily. I need to stay awake and not sleepwalk, so I practice what I teach.
In the next post, we'll explore Somatic Clarity.
THIS IS NOT TRAINING. IT'S CALIBRATION.
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