MY ROOM 3
SESSION THREE — SOMATIC CURIOSITY
IGNORING EXTERNAL DISTRACTIONS
This is a link to the ‘Principles’ tutorial video - ‘My Room- Session 3 - Principles.’
The third Red Rule:
“Curiosity didn’t kill the cat; it is what gave it nine lives.”
― Robert (Sherpa) Millar
Session three shifts focus on the first somatic attention grabber. Curiosity is my go-to somatic interrogator. I have learned more from this silent killer than from all the words I’ve ever heard.
I have been invited to sit in a room full of bankers, and just read the room. The bank president believed my ‘read’ would give him an edge in the negotiations. I want to set realistic expectations at this point. I have 25,000+ hours of experience, a natural aptitude for this kind of work, and I grew up in a world more improbable than would be expected of a consultant who reads a room full of bankers. But the principles I use to such profitable effect are universal, and, with practice, can produce some extremely valuable insights for those who can pay somatic attention.
This session explores the power of somatic curiosity when reading a room. Remember, the bulk of people in most rooms are distracted by the irrelevant, focusing primarily on what people say and almost not at all on non-verbal cues, which make up 70% of all human communication. If you can feel the right question, you will usually find the most relevant somatic insight. You are a hunter in the room; listening isn’t enough —you need to be to feel that somatically relevant prey that has a somatic curiosity arrow pointed at its heart.
Reflection sequence:
The activation process brings itself to the foreground of your mind. The narrative unfolding in the Principle section activated empathic memories from your own lived experience. One of the most common mistakes clients make in this sequence is to ‘think’ about how the questions. Despite having spent six months being encouraged to ‘feel’ their way to the reflection point, they default back to the comfort zone of thinking. Your primitive hunter 'feels' things; it doesn't think about them. It feels for that familiar feeling of Curiosity, then starts interrogating it for relevant information.
Now that you have conjured up those lived experiences from your own memory that feel similar to mine, I want you to slow down, find a quiet place to sit, then close your eyes, put your dominant hand on your chest, and check how you felt when reading the Principles section of this session, the instruction, the images, the tone. This isn’t touchy-feely mediation, mindfulness techniques. It is how tier-one operators check in with their spidy sense. If it makes you uncomfortable, tough it out!
Now that you can somatically feel curiosity in a room, move to practicing. This program has five sessions. Whether you race through or take your time, come back and slow down. I created this program as a subject-matter expert in Somatic Reading, and I still do these Somatic Exercises daily. I need to stay awake and not sleepwalk, so I practice what I teach.
In the next post, we'll explore Somatic Confidence.
THIS IS NOT TRAINING. IT'S CALIBRATION.
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