MY LIFE 1
SESSION ONE — MY MAP
This is a link to the ‘Principles’ tutorial video - ‘My Life - Session 1 - Principles.’
Alongside the Principes video, I have included the ‘Activation Narrative’ that is part of this session in the self-guided workbooks. The stories I tell aren’t comfortable, nor are they trauma porn. They are designed to elicit a specific response from the reader, tied to the topic our clients are working on in this session.
The First Blue Rule:
“In my experience, a crisis comes because something in your life is meaningful. If you want a crisis-free life, scrape all the meaning out of your life.
― Robert (Sherpa) Millar
This session references crisis at its extreme edge—including suicidal ideation. If you're currently experiencing an active situation, this program may not be the right tool for you. Call the professionals. This program is for mapping before the storm, not navigating in the middle of it.
“I got a call at 3 am last night, and it took me a little while to get back to sleep.” This was Andy’s explanation for being a little sluggish while we were getting ready to angle grind the metal posts on the walkway around the guest wing of the property. I came to help Andy during my vacation, as the property was large and required extensive maintenance. Andy and his wife led an organization and a property that was a refuge for people in crisis. I was surprised and wondered who called at 3 am, so I asked Andy to discuss it with me. Andy thought for a moment, clearly weighing whether this was something I was ready for. Then he explained, “A man called last night to explain he was standing on a table with a rope around his neck and needed me to come over right away to help him. I told him that he could call me at 9 am tomorrow, said good night, and ended the call.” I was stunned! You could have knocked me over with a feather. Andy was one of my early mentors, and I still believe I am not worthy of carrying his bag, let alone critiquing his choices. At that point in my life, I had full-blown hero worship of Andy. But let’s be real, he told the guy to call him in the morning!?! Sheesh, I knew Andy was a serious person, but really!? Andy could tell he had confused me, so he looked at me and explained further, “R.J., I can’t be there for this man for the rest of his life. I can’t make him want to live. He has to find that from within himself.”
I wish I could say I took advantage of Andy’s advice that day. But I didn’t because I wanted to be the guy you called when you were in crisis—one of the more idiotic things I’ve done in my life. Obviously, I no longer wish to be the guy you call in crisis. But sadly, the old chestnut, “be careful what you wish for,” is still a valid warning, because I am the person people call in a crisis. I know I can’t rewrite the past, so I spent the years seeking a way to help before those late-night calls came in. I wanted a way to equip people to avoid the crisis while it still felt like a storm in a teacup. My Life is my solution to that problem.
In the next post, we'll explore the introduction to the paradox of Extrinsic/Intrinsic conflict in My Culture.
THIS IS NOT TRAINING. IT'S CALIBRATION.
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They call me 'Sherpa' because I help people get to where they want to go. I can't promise you will have all your fingers and toes when you reach your summit. But you'll achieve it. If you're looking for easy, this isn't it. If you want transformation, start here: Sherpa Intro Tree — Bespoke Compass
— Robert (Sherpa) Millar | Bespoke Compass