MY LEADERSHIP - 1
SESSION ONE — THE WALL - the Instinctive question
Alongside the Principes video, I have included the ‘Activation Narrative’ that is part of this session in the self-guided workbooks. The stories I tell aren’t comfortable, nor are they trauma porn. They are designed to elicit a specific response from the reader, tied to the topic our clients are working on in this session.
The First Golden Rule:
“You cannot know the future, but we can see just around the corner by following the pattern.”
― Robert (Sherpa) Millar
I was born in Northern Ireland on January 5th, 1971, at the beginning of a thirty-year war that we now call The Troubles. I developed my instinctive leadership sequence in the day-to-day survival caused by systemic poverty and violence. There wasn’t time to read the manual or calculate the best course of action for the dangerous situations I found myself in. I needed to act—and act fast—if I was to ensure we got through the latest crisis. Very few of the experiences that shaped my childhood and early adulthood could be predicted or planned. From an early age, I felt responsible for others, which meant I needed to develop a subconscious sequence of steps to think on my feet as a young leader. My goals in those early years tended to be low on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs pyramid. But the sequence I developed then is still what I use today to achieve success in the higher areas of that pyramid.
Where does this instinctive sequence come from, if it's not innate? It originates from the same place all subconscious sequences are built: you encountered a novel experience, and through repetition, review, and results, you developed a reliable method to achieve the intended outcome.
Imagine a toddler stacking wooden blocks. They try, fail, try again. Once successful, they look to the Authority in the room—social referencing, which builds subconscious sequences. If you're an instinctive leader, it means that during your formative years, you had repeated opportunities to lead, with an Authority Figure providing feedback. You had the chance to explore different ways to lead yourself and others safely.
As with the blocks, you discovered that leadership has unavoidable core steps. You must set a goal, assess the available options, decide on the options, and act on your decisions. At that point, you discover the final reliable step: leadership always entails stress.
You don't have to be a genius to sequence how leadership works. This program is laid out without the frills and spills typical of Mystery or Magic models, which are embedded to increase the guru's value by creating yet another way to achieve a successful and healthy life.
THIS IS NOT TRAINING. IT'S CALIBRATION.
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